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Many times a family member becomes distant to their birth family through no action on their own. Grudges, prejudices, and other discordant views often make the family distant. Once the parents die, they discord can become more obvious. In my case, it seems that my siblings went on having a relationship with me because I had a relationship with the same parents they have a relationship with! This is not true in the case of all my siblings as my youngest brother and I remain in close contact through both our family connection and love. I do not stop loving my other siblings, only honor their wish for distance and non-communication modes of being. Since we do not live near each other, it takes more effort to HAVE a relationship. It is what it is; and I can’t pretend otherwise. I at last have a sense of peace with my family, where I find and give love!
Relationships are like two way streets and one person cannot make a relationship. Still I have found myself in some profound love relationships with some good friends, and above all my husband whom I adore and he also adores me! What a precious gift this is!
We have celebrated 30 years together recently as a married couple and find such joy in doing and being present for each other. That is the experience of love, no matter what we are present to each other.
Life takes its sudden (and not so sudden) twists and turns, but I for one am thankful for my own life and the lives of those who love me!
